Beloved Hoffman teacher and coach, Corey Campbell, had no thought of becoming a Hoffman teacher when he arrived for his week at the Process. Rather, he came because he was exhausted and didn’t know why. He hoped to find something that would help him change his approach to life.
Often, people believe that if they have good parents and/or a happy childhood, there is nothing to be gained from looking at their parents’ or caregivers’ behaviors. But Corey’s story is a beautiful example of that not being true. When he came, Corey was sure most of the patterns he needed to release didn’t come from his mother. It turns out that the exhaustion he was experiencing from serving others could be directly traced to his mother’s patterns. Often, even ‘good’ behavior is driven by unconscious needs not being met. What matters is what’s driving the behavior. When driven by patterns, we will attempt to meet that need in a way that doesn’t work.
At the Process, Corey saw through the patterns and opened to deep Presence. Lying in the cold creek water, staring up at the sunlight through the trees, he had a moment of realization. Corey realized that he is enough just as he is. This pure clarity has changed his approach to life. He now understands that loving and caring for his wife and son, Cayden, is enough. If he does other things in his life, great. But he no longer lets his patterns convince him he needs to be more because he is enough. (Listen in to hear why Corey was lying in the cold water!)
We hope you enjoy this insightful and loving conversation with Corey and Sadie.
Content warning: This conversation references grief and loss.
Corey Campbell is a Hoffman Process Teacher & Coach. He is also the CEO and Founder of Akamai Training & Consulting, where he serves as a nationally recognized executive coach and leadership consultant. Through Akamai, Corey builds high-performance cultures rooted in mindset, emotional intelligence, and authentic leadership. His coaching and training programs challenge people to be open, real, and courageous. They learn to embrace the tough conversations that foster genuine trust, alignment, and unity.
Corey brings a personalized, insight-driven approach to every engagement. He is a Gallup Certified Strengths Coach and a certified practitioner of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI®), the iEQ9 Integrative Enneagram, and Tracom’s Social Styles & Versatility. He has over 20 years of experience transforming people and teams across hospitality, healthcare, finance, and government.
Corey resides in Honolulu with his wife, Cherise, their son Cayden, and their dog, Scooby. He enjoys being outdoors, hiking, traveling, and reading. Corey has a special affinity for Japanese culture after spending three years teaching English there after college. He wakes up every day fueled by his purpose: to help others live a more energized, engaged, and inspired life.
“I came to Hoffman totally burnt out on life – exhausted from trying to make everyone else around me happy while feeling empty inside and trying to mask it. During my Process, I realized how deeply set and unconscious my childhood patterns were around playing the role of helper and, ultimately, people pleaser. The Process allowed me to get in touch with my authentic self, for perhaps the first time ever, and to start to love myself simply for who I am, not for what I do. It’s a gift that keeps on giving. Teaching Hoffman now is an honor to walk alongside others as they discover or reconnect to their own light and sense of self-love.”
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White Sulphur Springs in St. Helena, CA
• The Hoffman Process was held at Whilte Sulphur Springs for two decades. In September 2020, the retreat site burned in the Glass Fire.
Negative Love Syndrome
• Read about the Negative Love Syndrome in A Path to Personal Freedom and Love
• Explaining the Negative Love Syndrome
Shame statement –
• Shame is an early felt sense, which gives rise to our very first patterned belief that we take on to survive the pain, disconnection, and emptiness we experience within our environment and with our caretakers. It is a universal experience.
• A shame statement is an “I am____” statement – a false identity, such as I am unlovable, I am bad, I am unworthy, etc.
Attunement:
“When we attune with others we allow our own internal state to shift, to come to resonate with the inner world of another. This resonance is at the heart of the important sense of “feeling felt” that emerges in close relationships. Children need attunement to feel secure and to develop well, and throughout our lives we need attunement to feel close and connected.” – Dr. Dan Siegel
Listen to Hoffman graduate, Dr. Dan Siegel, on the Hoffman Podcast