S4E02: Katie – My Sobriety & The Hoffman Process
Katie and Liz engage in this insightful conversation about the intersection of sobriety and the Hoffman Process. How can the Process support the journey of sobriety? And, how can the journey of sobriety deepen one’s engagement in the Process itself and one’s post-Process experience?
After getting sober in 2014, Katie did the Process in the Spring of 2016. After completing the Process, Katie found a way to integrate her Hoffman work into her program of sobriety.
Katie came to the Process to help heal her relationship with her mother whom Katie was caring for. Her mother was facing end-stage liver failure due to alcoholism. As an alcoholic herself, Katie was deeply compassionate toward others who working a program of sobriety. But, it was different with her mother. She resented her drinking and other behaviors. Through the Process, Katie was able to heal her relationship with her mother as well as her resentment toward her mother’s drinking by exploring what her mother’s life was prior to Katie being born. This helped Katie see her mother as a person whole unto herself and see her mother’s pain separate from her own. One of the big things Katie gained from the Process is a sense of neutrality – that people aren’t doing things to her and she doesn’t have to assume bad intent.
Katie calls herself a liberal atheist, and as such, she found the ‘God concept’ hard. However, in the Process, it wasn’t hard at all for her to tap into her Spiritual Self. She realizes now that it was her Spiritual Self that brought her to that first Twelve Step meeting, that guided her to ask for a sponsor, and that ultimately brought her to the Process.
On a very happy note, Katie’s mother’s health is much better.
More about Katie:
Katie is a Jane of all trades who embodies self-awareness and conscientiousness in everything she does. Her background in art led her to a career in the design tech space where she gets to combine her hunger for business and creativity in San Francisco. As an ex-gymnast, the Hoffman Process helped Katie separate her perfectionism from her innate love for movement. As a result, she now does acrobatics at a local circus gym.
When she’s not working or doing backflips, Katie is working on her latest woodworking project, training her deaf dog Ruby, cooking up her favorite vegetarian dishes, and enjoying the city’s best coffee.
As mentioned in this episode:
The Dark Side: Katie and Liz engage in conversation about the Dark Side (the aggregate of one’s negative patterns). Katie had related her alcoholism to something like the Dark Side, but when she learned about the Dark Side at the Process and was no longer drinking, she came to see that the Dark Side wasn’t just her alcoholism. It was also her anxiety and all the ways she tries to soothe herself in moments when life gets difficult.
H.A.L.T.: An acronym from the recovery community. Am I hungry, angry, lonely, or tired? As Katie says, it’s like a mini-quad check.
Discover if the Process is right for you.
How to share the Process with loved ones.