By Shawn McAndrew
Without curiosity, growth is not easy. When we ask questions, we can begin to understand why or how something is the way it is. Why? What? Who?
Before we even step foot into the Process, we are asking tons of questions (pre-Process work, anyone?). We explore our childhood, probing into how the adults who raised us acted or reacted. We ask ourselves how we’re acting out now what those adults modeled then, or how we are rebelling against their ways of being.
Curiosity Is Good
Why did my parents do what they did? Or not do what they should have? Why do I react to certain things? How can I become a better human being? How can I have more joy, love, and peace in my life? So many questions!
As a child, I was very curious. I wanted to know how things worked, why people acted the way they did. I pondered and wondered, and if my questions weren’t answered, I came to my own conclusions.
My grandmother had no patience with my curiosity. “Curiosity killed the cat,” she told me once. That was hurtful and helped erode my drive to find out why.
Figure It Out
Over the years, people’s impatience with my questions whittled away my curious nature. I stopped asking because I was rebuffed and rebuked too many times. Even though my quest for answers was enlivening to me, it was too painful to hear the constant push back of, “I don’t know! Figure it out for yourself.”
During the Process, I was able to reconnect to this wonderful part of me, a part that lay buried under other people’s fears, judgments, and narrow views. I cannot let myself stay small and uninterested. I have to know what makes things and people tick. Yes, I was that child who took apart a clock once. I couldn’t put it back together properly, but that wasn’t the point. I saw the insides, the mechanism. It helped me understand what made the hands go around every second, minute, and hour.
Explore and Discover
I am happy to be a curious person. I’ve learned to appreciate and love that aspect of myself. Curiosity allows me to grow and stretch; explore boundaries and widen my horizons. It gives me the opportunity to discover, uncover, reconnect to who I am, who others are, and why things work or don’t work.
The Process is about rediscovering and reconnecting to our true selves – our spirit. If I go into the day being curious, I learn new things, or remember things I once knew. Who will I meet in my journey today, and how will they inspire and open me to new ideas? What beautiful aspect of me will I remember? Curiosity enlivens, inspires, and awakens. Let’s go and make some discoveries today!